At the moment my bloglovin’ feed is full of fellow bloggers looking back on the past year and making resolutions for 2016. Usually I would be thinking about my new years resolutions too, but this time I’ve decided to go against the tide. Every year I make a long list of resolutions from growing out my stubby nails to going on a girls holiday, and if I don’t meet them I really beat myself up about it.
In reality many people don’t stick to their goals for the year because we give ourselves unrealistic expectations of what is going to happen over the next few months. What I’ve realised from 2015 is that you can’t plan out your life to the minute detail, however much you might want to. So, in 2016, I’ve decided to make sure that every decision I make is for the sake of happiness. (Edit: Oh my god, I sound so cheesy!)
What I mean by this is, I’m going to take every day as it comes. I’m going to stop worrying about how I’m perceived (to a certain extent), or how people think about the way I dress, and I’m going to turn every situation into a positive. In short that just means for every decision that comes my way, I’m going to choose ‘the happy one’.
If I want to eat a massive chocolate bar, I’ll eat it. If I want to go for a long walk for no reason, I will. If I want to go to a festival, I’ll go for it. If I make mistakes, that’s okay, I’ll learn from them. It also means if my friend is feeling blue, I’ll be the first to grab some grapes and a film and be round to cheer them up. Choosing happiness doesn’t just count for yourself.
On the flip side, choosing happiness also means that I will have to turn every bad situation into a good one. I know, looking at the positive side of things can sometimes be hard. My friend recently suggested that I keep a list of ‘the small things’ that make me smile so that I can look back on them when I’m having a particularly crappy day. It helps her to remind herself that there are so many things to be happy about, and I think that’s a great idea.
Whether you choose to make New Years resolutions to better yourself over 2016 or are just looking forward to the fresh year ahead, I hope you have a great New Years Eve and you wake up feeling happy about the year ahead… hangover and all. xo
“Happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of traveling.” Margaret Lee Runbeck